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Hey you... Yea YOU! You deserve an easier life! Now take a moment to let that sink in... (don't worry... I'll wait!) Far too often Black and Brown women have been told that "rest is for the lazy" and that "sleep is for suckers". Well guess what? You can call me a sucker, lazy or shiftless but that doesn’t negate the fact the we need, deserve and are now requiring REST as a basic standard. I am sorry, but those thoughtless, overused slavery tactics just aren’t working anymore and the great black girls resignation is occurring as it should be.
Millions of overworked, under paid black women are understanding how important their creativity, intellectual output and labor is to keeping this US economy afloat. Many are choosing let it all burn to ashes rather than endure another year of racist co-workers, demanding bosses and the anxiety that comes with the thought of having to clock in the next day. And to that I say....Yeeeeeessssss!
The ability to choose rest over stress is a new concept for us. Nevertheless, it is one ideal that we MUST learn to accept. We CANNOT afford to loose another mother, sister or friend because of depression or even worse suicide as a result of exhaustion and mental burn out. Sis, that job ain’t worth it. I've also seen a spike in black women exiting the relationship race and choosing to as Kevin Samuels says "Die alone"rather than stay in toxic and soul sapping relationships. Staying in relationships that lack equity and reciprocity are literally killing us and we would rather become that a dog mommy. It's the womening for me! We have been fighting far too long for relationships that aren’t worth our time just so we can say "I have a husband or a man". That credibility alone just ain’t enough anymore to keep women staying in abuse. Well I no that the only people mad about this is the Narcs and the abusers and y'all can stay mad... forever!
Hun, it's time to create a life that you enjoy. A life that makes our ancestors proud. A life that feeds your soul and makes you smile from within. Sis, you deserve a life of GRACE & EASE and I am gonna give you 3 ways to create it. So just keep reading!
3 WAYS TO CREATE A LIFE OF GRACE AND EASE AS A FEMININE WOMAN
1) DECIDE THE LIFE YOU DESERVE
Did you know that you have a choice as to what kind of life you want to live? Sis, that's so powerful! You can decide to stay at that dead beat job or leave it. You can decide to stay with Mr. Potential or work on yourself and attract Mr. Provide for my family. You can choose to entertain your toxic family or let them go kick rocks. You can choose to stay hurt and broken or you can release your past pain and heal. Sis, the choice is all yours to make but just know that you have the choice as a grown woman.
Deciding to choose that feminine life you want is really easy. The life that you want has everything to do with who you are as a woman. You will have to explore what really makes you happy and what your non-negotiables are and what are the things you can't live without?
✨ Do you life for the travel life? How often do you want to travel a year?
✨ Do you want to live a solo van life? How can you make that happen?
✨ Are you an artist who needs time to develop your craft? How can you make more time?
The key here is to discover and choose the kind of life that you always wanted to life. The kind of life that you always dreamed of. The life that you were told was too boosie and expensive. The life that speaks to not only who you are BUT who you want to be!
2) DUMP THE MESS AND THE STRESS
So, the next step is to get rid of the stress and the mess in your life that no longer serves your higher feminine purpose. You will have to skim through your life with a fine tooth comb and get rid of the napps. The nappy relationships, the nappy friendships, the nappy job, the nappy drama and the nappy headed environment. Whatever you nappy headed mess is... it all has to go! Since I am an organization freak, I would advise you to make a list of what needs to go and check it off one by one (then have solo party and celebrate... you're a woman now!).
3) CREATE YOUR EASY LIFE 6 MONTH PLAN
Lastly, plan your life out and work on the plan daily. If leaving your job is your goal... what needs to be in place before this can happen? How much money do you need save? If traveling more makes you feel alive, how can do more of it? Do you have a traveling budget?If leaving that toxic relationship is necessary for you heal and grow, what precautions need to be made first? And love, take your time and plan this one carefully. You may need to get some other people involved if you know what I mean. Safety is always first! Whatever your new, easier life is, research what it will take to actually make it happen. I would say do the easy things on you list first and cross them off as this will give you the motivation and confidence to do more.
Let me say this again for the women in the back... YOU DESERVE A LIFE OF GRACE AND EASE!!! Start planning it today!
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