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So you’ve decided that it’s time for you to start your feminine elevation journey. Yeeeesssssss! I am excited for you Hun! However, pump your brakes for just a moment and hold your peace for a little while because very soon you may realize that not many people around you will be happy for you. This is not to discourage you Luv, my desire is for you to flourish and thrive as a feminine women however, the reality is, you might have to walk this feminine path alone, But don't worry, I am always here if you need me.
When I first started my femininity journey, I shared my joy with anyone who would listen. I went all up and down the Internet streets sharing everything that I was learning to see if I could somehow help others with what I was learning .To my surprise, women started sending me DMs like "I feel like you’re showing off and bragging too much" and "I am tired of seeing pictures of you traveling and living like a White Woman". Sis, I was flabbergasted and confused! All I was trying to do was show other women of color that they too could live the life of their dreams by learning the femininity skills that I was applying. I quickly realized that my feminine path was gonna be a personal one and my most sincere recommendation to you is that you keep YOUR new femininity journey as secret as well and here’s why:
Be careful who you tell your secrets to, not everyone is looking out for you". -Picture Quotes.com
#1 IT KEEPS THE FEMININE HATERS AT BAY
Haters? Who got haters? Not me... Everybody loves me! This is the mindset of a woman who is a little naive. Do take offense Luv, we've ALL been there. I know it's hard to believe that anyone would hate a woman as nice and loving as you are but...there is. One thing that I want you to understand is that women are competitive by nature. When another woman perceives that she has competition, she immediately gets jealous and tries to halt the progress at all cause. Keeping your feminine journey as secret will help you to avoid such experiences and allow you to thrive in you new feminine space. Now, this doesn’t mean that you can’t eventually share your journey but I advise you to wait for at least 90 days or more to allow some femininity habits to have a chance to form. But hey Hun, that’s up to you. I am just gonna sit here...drink water and mind my feminine business! Here are a few tips that might be helpful:
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1.tay Unbothered & Elegant
Feminine energy isn’t about proving anything. Keep your responses classy, short, or nonexistent. Silence speaks volumes.
The more you rise in your femininity, the more some people will try to test you. Your peace is your power.
2. Set Firm Boundaries
Some critics come from jealousy, misunderstanding, or projection. Not everyone deserves access to you.
Don't waste time arguing—some people just want a reaction. Redirect your energy to those who appreciate and support you.
3. Move in Exclusivity
Keep your circles tight. Not everyone should know your next move.
Private, polished, and poised—this keeps haters guessing while you keep glowing.
4. Let Your Results Speak
The best clap back 👏🏾 is leveling up.
Haters will talk, but they can’t argue with grace, beauty, and success.
#2 IT GIVES YOU AN EDGE OVER OTHERS
It's nothing like knowing something that nobody else knows but you. It kinda feels like winning the lottery and not one single family member called you to ask for a couple of dollars. It's also like going to a high in store like Saint Laurent and choosing the later fancy bag for $700 only to find out at the register that it's on sale for 50% off today. Like Hunny, that's what if feels like to keep a secret. In 2022, we must learn to be discreet when dealing with others. I'll be the first to admit, I use to be an open book. Consequently people began to use my own information against me and the sting of being betrayed helped me to realize that sometime...things are better left unsaid. Keep people guessing this year and allow your actions to speak for themselves.
Being mysterious on your femininity journey gives you an undeniable edge because it keeps people intrigued, sets you apart, and protects your energy. Here’s why:
1. Mystery Creates Attraction & Influence
People are naturally drawn to what they can’t easily figure out.
A woman who doesn’t overshare her moves commands attention effortlessly.
2. You Protect Your Growth & Energy
Not everyone deserves to know your next step.
Some people secretly want you to fail—don’t give them the playbook.
Growth happens in private, success speaks in public.
3. You Stay in Control
When people can’t predict you, they can’t manipulate you.
A mysterious woman moves intentionally, not impulsively.
4. Your Presence Becomes More Powerful
You don’t need to be loud to be seen, heard, and respected.
A little silence + confidence makes people want to know more.
Tips From You Coach:
Femininity thrives in mystery. Share just enough to inspire, but never too much to lose your power.
#3 IT HELPS YOU TO STAY MOTIVATED
When we loose motivation Hun, we've already lost half the battle. It takes a lot to keep the good vibes going on a feminine elevation path. Many people, men and women are bent on keeping Black and Brown women dead last( in my Jamaican voice) when it comes to desirability. By maintaining the status-quo, it helps them to feel justified in the belief that all black women are aggressive, strong, and unworthy of love. Keeping your feminine journey a secret will stop the haters from hating and keep the barking dogs on their leashes while you mind you feminine business and thrive. If you are currently on your feminine journey and you've lost your fire, here are some things that may help.
On your femininity journey, mystery helps you stay motivated because it keeps you focused on your own growth instead of external validation. Here’s how:
1. You Avoid Unnecessary Opinions
When you keep your journey private, you’re not distracted by negative feedback or unsolicited advice.
You grow at your own pace, without pressure or comparison.
2. Your Progress Feels More Personal & Sacred
Keeping some parts of your journey to yourself makes it feel special and intentional.
You’re building something meaningful without feeling the need to prove anything.
3. You Stay Committed for YOU
When your journey is just for you, you stay motivated because it’s about self-love, not external approval.
Your transformation feels more rewarding when it unfolds naturally.
4. You Reveal Results, Not Just Plans
Instead of talking about what you will do, you stay motivated to actually do it.
When you finally reveal your progress, it speaks for itself—no explanations needed.
💡 Mystery fuels consistency. Keep your moves low, stay focused, and let your glow-up be the proof.
1) Journal what you are feeling and try to examine where you fell off. Get UP and start again!
2) Go on youtube and watch a few Black Girl Luxury videos and get inspired. Here's one that I particularly like:
With much love and feminine energy to you and your journey Hun!
What do you have to say about this Hun! Do you believe that keeping your journey as secret will help you to flourish? Have you had some negative experience centered around over sharing with others prematurely? Share it with us Luv and help this feminine community grow in wisdom.
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